An open letter to the President of France

Poles respect you as the president of France, but you are neither the president nor the king of Poland to claim the right to rule it.

Dear Mr. President,
You decided again to admonish Poland’s government, this time at the SorbonneYou even advised young Poles on how they should fight the government. You said: “The government of Poland has to explain to Poles that if it is going to implement its programme, it would have to suggest that Poland leave the Union.”
This is a very interesting stance, as you said outright that if a democratically elected government of a sovereign country wants to use its powers and make good on its election promises on the basis of a democratic mandate, it cannot be part of the European Union. I understand that you are already working on the scenario of how to steer France out of the European Union since you are also implementing your programme, and as in Poland, you face protests from a segment of society.
A few days ago, after a wave of street protests against the reforms put forward by your government, you said: “I believe in democracy, but democracy is not the street. I respect the protesters, but I also respect the French voters who voted for the changes.”
Do you deny the Polish government what you think is the inalienable right of the government you formed and of you as the President of the Republic? Do you respect French voters, but not Polish ones, who act in the same manner?
France and Poland are equal European Union members, so it is hard to understand why things that are normal and democratic in your country cannot be so in Poland. Or maybe the European treaties contain some secret provision that you know about but the rest are unaware of, a provision that gives more rights to the French government than to the Polish one. If that is the case, I would like you to name it.
Speaking at the Sorbonne, you said: “I have a duty towards you [young Poles]. This duty is to do everything I can to make it possible for you to use democracy to oppose the ones who want to turn you away from Europe. And I will achieve it.”
Would you be so kind as to disclose who entrusted you with this task or where it is provided for in the European treaties?
You may well have the ambition to reshape other countries, but in a democratic world such a position by a state’s president, and not a private person, is considered as insolence, usurpation, or meddling in domestic affairs.
Could you imagine Poland’s President Andrzej Duda or Poland’s Prime Minister Beata Szydło addressing a similar message to young French people at the University of Warsaw? Would you dare address a similar message to young Germans, Italians or the English?
Polish leaders could very well consider the decrees that you are proposing, bypassing the parliament, to be undemocratic and contrary to the rights and principles of the European Union. Just as they could consider that the protracted state of emergency, that was introduced in France in November 2015, is a violation of the rights and values of the EU. And this would give them a far greater right to be fixing France in accordance with European values than you have to be fixing Poland.
And all this is only founded on a feeling that the Polish government is “turning its back on Europe.” But they will not behave so, because that would be interfering in France’s internal affairs. It would also be a sign of arrogance and insolence. So on what grounds would you like to fix Poland? Why do you claim the right to decide what is good and what is not good for Poland?
As far as I know, the Polish government has not asked you to do so. I do not know anything about Poland being a French colony or protectorate. Nor have you been elected King of Poland, unlike your compatriot, Henri de Valois, in 1573, for we are a republic.
In a recent interview for “Le Point”, you said: “I strongly condemn (…) the alarming policy of the Polish government, which undermines European solidarity.” Would you kindly specify in what way the Polish government “undermines European solidarity?”
The refusal take in migrants under a mandatory relocation scheme was merely the rejection of the notion that Germany, France or Italy get to impose their will on other EU states. It was also opposition to senselessly exposing the safety of Poles and other European nations to danger. As a matter of fact, this plan was not carried out by any European Union member state, even though some of them pretended to implement it, so they were being hypocritical just to be no longer bothered. Even France did not carry it out, either.
A few days ago this scheme ceased to apply. It will not be continued, and resettlement is to be done on a voluntary basis, which disqualifies the compulsory relocation scheme. So why do you accuse only Poland of showing a lack of solidarity? Especially given the fact that the recent decisions proved the Polish government right. Where is your sense of solidarity as the president of France when French companies and financial institutions take part in Nord Stream 2 project, which flagrantly violates the principle of solidarity by putting at risk energy security of several EU members, including Poland?
A few weeks ago, during your stay in Bulgaria, you said: “Poland does not define the future of Europe today, nor will it define Europe tomorrow.” And you told “Le Point” that “the Polish government is not a spokesman of Eastern Europe.” On what grounds do you deny the possibility to decide about the future of Europe to Poland, a full-fledged EU member?
After all, art 4(2) of the European Union Treaty reads clearly that “The Union shall respect the equality of Member States before the Treaties,” whereas art 4(3) states that the Union and the Member States should act “in full mutual respect.”
How do you explain your excluding Poland from deciding about Europe in the light of the European Union Treaty? It is not only usurpation, it is outright discrimination.
What is more, for a few months you have been proposing changes to the European Union that are inconsistent with the binding treaties, such as creating a separate budget for the eurozone. This overtly contradicts the principle of solidarity. Just as threatening Poland with depriving it of part of the cohesion fund, which embodies the principle of solidarity with poorer states and regions of the European Union.
Have the European Council or the European Parliament authorized you to act as the one who decides about the role of Poland in the EU, or in Eastern Europe?
Do France and its president have some special status guaranteed in the European treaties? Or maybe it comes from some kind of divine features of yours that could be accepted by acclamation?
Mr. President, why do you disrespect a country (by disrespecting its democratically elected authorities) that should be treated equally and respected under the European treaties?
Who gives you the right to intervene in the domestic issues of the Polish state, the right to instruct its authorities, to apply some corrective pedagogy to a large part of Polish society?
Poles respect you as the president of France, but you are neither the president nor the king of Poland to claim the right to rule it, even from the back seat. You are neither a source of European Union law, nor the only person entitled to interpret and control it. Even if you should have the feeling that some cosmic forces have bestowed on you special rights and capacities, that has not yet become a commonly accepted principle of legitimization. France deserves to have a president that deals with the problems of the French people. And if the Polish authorities want and need your advice, they will no doubt ask you for it.
Stanisław Janecki
 
Sources: “Sieci Prawdy”, poland.pl

9 Phrases You Should Stop Saying if You Want to Be Happy and Successful

Language matters.

by Elle Kaplan

Change your vocabulary and you can completely change your success.

Language matters. The right words can motivate you to take your happiness and success to the next level — but the wrong ones can stand in your way.
Studies have even found that using positive or negative language can change your brain by impacting the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.
Even more importantly, it’s been discovered that we say that we say 300 to 1,000 words to ourselves every single minute. If you’re practicing negative self-talk, that’s a lot of negative words being thrown your way.
If you’re serious about moving toward success in every aspect of your life — including your words — read on for nine phrases you should eliminate from your vocabulary.

1) “This has to be perfect.”

American journalist, activist, author of six best-selling books Maria Shriver once said, “Perfectionism doesn’t make you feel perfect; it makes you feel inadequate.”

Often, we strive for perfection because we seek approval and praise from others. When we obsess over how others perceive us, we are left unhappy, disappointed, and unmotivated.
Although you should always aim to do your best work (and you should never be making sloppy mistakes), you can’t expect to take on new challenges without a few slip-ups along the way.
Next time you find yourself in this endless cycle of thinking your best isn’t good enough, take a moment to find gratitude for all you’ve been able to accomplish — and then move on.

2) Constantly saying “Yes.”

When we say “yes” to everything, we make ourselves susceptible to being overextended, overworked, and overwhelmed. It also cheapens the value of our time, and blocks us from being able to put our full energy into the things we really want to say yes to. The key is setting boundaries. Janine Garner, CEO of The LBD Group, says, “It’s about realising that you’ve got to take ownership of yourself, take ownership of your life and ownership of achieving the goals you want.” Flex your “no” muscles more — as you say it more often, it will get easier.

3) “I’m so busy.”

A recent study in the Journal of Psychological Science shows that in general, we’re much happier when we have a lot going on in our lives. So why is our response to “How are you?” usually met with tales of our busyness, followed by an exhausted sigh?
When we vocalize this state, it automatically conjures negative thoughts, forces us to run through a to-do list in our heads instead of being present in the moment, and serves as a thinly-veiled cover-up for how we’re actually feeling. Next time a friend or colleague asks you how you’re doing, bring attention to your response — and avoid the word “busy.”

4) “They’ll change.”

Many of us are “fixers.” We see someone with a problem, or we see some aspect of their personality or behavior to that we want to change — so we force our idea of what is right upon them. People cannot change unless they want to. So not only is trying to change others futile, it compromise their happiness and ours. If someone comes to you for help, don’t be afraid to offer your support — just don’t force your ideas on them and expect a radical 180-turn in their behavior.

5) “I can’t.”

When people hear you say “I can’t,” they hear “I won’t.” Not only does this suggest that you’re not willing to do what it takes to get the job done, but often asserting that you can’t do something is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Often, we deny being able to do something because we are afraid — when we’re presented with a new opportunity that would introduce radical change, an exciting new role, or the chance to present in front of a room of senior executives. Next time you want to say “I can’t,” examine your motives carefully — is it coming from a place of inability, or fear?

6) “I’ll do it later.”

Procrastination can be a detriment to your self-esteem, productivity, and reputation. A number of studies over the past decade have also shown that it even has negative effects on your well-being and your emotional state.
To avoid the time-wasting, emotionally-draining effects of procrastination, employ good time-management practices like using a planner — either on your phone, or in a paper calendar. Break up your goals and tasks into bite-size pieces, and give yourself a small reward when you reach one of these milestones.

7) “This is the way that it’s always been done.”

Think about some of the biggest innovations of the last several years: ride-sharing apps. Electric cars. Virtual and augmented reality. These new products disrupted entire industries because they did things completely differently.
If Elon Musk had said “cars have always run this way,” we wouldn’t have Tesla. Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo and think of new ways of solving a common problem — you can be sure your boss and the people around you will take notice.

8) “Everybody said no”

Apple is the biggest company in the world based on their market capitalization. We can give Steve Jobs credit for most of that growth.
Today, he’s regarded as a marketing genius and a business messiah, but it wasn’t always that way. Apple’s board of directors fired him at the age of 30, which any rational person would interpret as the ultimate “no.”
But that didn’t stop him. He went on to found NeXT, NeXT was acquired by Apple, and the rest, as they say, is history. But if he had taken “no” for an answer, we probably wouldn’t even know who he was today.
“No” is an opinion. One rejection is not law. It’s impossible to please everyone, no matter what you do, and that goes for your personal success. Don’t leave it up to someone else.

9) “Never!”

The New York Times famously predicted that no matter what, no matter how far technology reached and no matter what the aerospace industry came up with, the human race would never, ever reach the moon.
What if people had listened?
The greatest success stories are those in which the impossible was accomplished, where that which was thought of as “never” achievable was achieved. The best and greatest have employed the opposite mindset, asking themselves “what if everythingis possible?”

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Are there any phrases you’ve stopped saying to boost your happiness and success? I’d love to hear about it — leave a comment or give me a shout-out on Twitter!
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Originally published at medium.com

UWAGA! NARCYZ

Nie z każdym mężczyzną da się stworzyć dobry związek i założyć rodzinę. Poznaj historię Beaty.

Honorata spoglądając jej głęboko w oczy, zapytała: czy ty jesteś kochana szczęśliwa? Nie wierzę, by odpowiadał ci ten blichtr, szpan, przecież to nie w twoim stylu! Beata zaprzeczała.
Nie rozumiała, dlaczego przyjaciołom nie odpowiada jej związek z Piotrem. Może przeszkadza im, że jest z innej bajki, z innego kręgu, nie z ich paczki.
Te błękitne oczy rozkochałyby każdą kobietą. Przystojny, wykształcony, nienagannie ubrany, szarmancki. Koleżanki, poza przyjaciółkami, były nim zachwycone. Takiego faceta ze świecą szukać! Ty to masz szczęście! – słyszała.
Czuła się jak księżniczka, jak gwiazda, którą Piotr chwalił się całemu światu. Ona też była z niego dumna. Wierzyła, że w końcu jej ukochany nagra płytę i będą podróżować po świecie.
Beata, obudź się!
Takich jak on mogłabyś mieć na pęczki! Dajesz temu pasożytowi wypijać z siebie wszystkie soki! Nie poznajemy cię! Opamiętaj się póki jeszcze czas! Czy ty nie widzisz, że pracujesz ponad ludzkie siły, by utrzymywać tego picusia – glancusia i pracować na jego luksusowe zachcianki?!
Musiało upłynąć niemało czasu, by do Beaty powoli zaczęło docierać, w jaką pułapkę wpadła. Wcześniej nie potrafiła zauważyć tego, co widzieli jej przyjaciele, dla których stawała się osobą uzależnioną od narcyza. Oni wiedzieli, że w tym związku nie jest sobą. Przecież znali ją od piaskownicy.
Relacja Beaty i Piotra to relacja, w której narcyz musi błyszczeć, by istnieć. Musi być podziwiany, chwalony, wspierany. Dlaczego? Gdyż sam w siebie nie wierzy. Na zewnątrz pokazuje postawę pewnego siebie zarozumialca, a w środku czuje się nikim. Ma bardzo niskie poczucie własnej wartości.
Gdzie leży podłoże takiej postawy?
Takich ludzi można spotkać wśród nas. Otóż Piotr wychowywany był przez rodziców, którzy stawiali mu bardzo wysoko poprzeczkę i wiecznie byli z niego niezadowoleni. Sami natomiast zaabsorbowani byli wszystkim poza własnym dzieckiem.
To rodziło w nim ciągłe pytania: “dlaczego wszystko inne jest ważniejsze?”, “dlaczego mnie nie kochają?”, “co ze mną jest nie w porządku?”. Relację tę cechował brak czułości.
Piotr w odpowiedzi na to, nauczył się grać kogoś, kogo chcieli w nim widziećrodzice. Nie wierzył, że można go kochać za to, kim jest, dlatego musiał wciąż wchodzić w rolę. W efekcie jako osoba dorosła nie miał stabilnego obrazu siebie, brakowało mu poczucia własnej wartości. Żył w ciągłym lęku, obawiając się, że zostanie zdemaskowany, iż inni odkryją, że nie jest tym, za którego go mają.
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Gofry: wakacyjna pułapka dietetyczna

Są jednym z najpopularniejszych, wakacyjnych deserów i obowiązkową przekąską każdego Polaka wypoczywającego nad morzem. Okazuje się jednak, że niepozorne gofry mogą zniszczyć nam urlop i z trudem wypracowaną sylwetkę.

Fot. 123RF/Picsel

Urlop bez gofrów? Trudno to sobie wyobrazić. Niektórzy z nas robią je samodzielnie, jednak zdecydowana większość decyduje się je kupić. Ich popularność nie powinna dziwić, gdyż są nie tylko smaczną, ale i bardzo prostą w przygotowaniu przekąską. Zastanawialiście się jednak, w jaki sposób ten pozornie niewinny przysmak może wpłynąć na wasze zdrowie?
Czy gofry są kaloryczne?
Ze zrobieniem gofrów powinien poradzić sobie nawet średnio uzdolniony kucharz. Będzie potrzebować zaledwie kilku składników – mąki, jajek, mleka, oleju i cukru. Mogłoby się wydawać, że to całkiem zdrowy i niezbyt kaloryczny zestaw, który w żaden sposób nie powinien zagrozić wyrzeźbionej na siłowni sylwetce. Owszem, to prawda, jednak niepełna. Przeciętna porcja to około 140 kcal, ale mało kto poprzestaje na zakupieniu suchego gofra. Niestety, to właśnie dodatki sprawiają, że ta przekąska staję się najprawdziwszą bombą kaloryczną.
Pół biedy, gdy zdecydujemy się tylko na cukier puder – za jego sprawą gofry zyskują tylko 40 kcal. Sytuacja staje się bardziej skomplikowana, kiedy postanowimy nieco zaszaleć. Każda łyżka bitej śmietany (30%) to około 60 dodatkowych kalorii. Jeśli przyjmujemy, że do gofra średnio dodaje się jej 2-3 łyżki, kaloryczność deseru zwiększy się ponad dwukrotnie.
Decydując się jeszcze na owoce w syropie, dżem, posypkę lub słodką polewę, może się okazać, iż w kilka chwil pochłoniemy nawet 600 kcal! To niemal tyle, co całkiem sycący obiad.
Czasem warto się zastanowić, czy aby na pewno chcemy zdecydować się na najbogatszą opcję. Ta słodka chwila zapomnienia może fatalnie odbić się na naszej sylwetce.
Kupując gofry pamiętajmy, że liczy się nie tylko to, co kupujecie, ale także gdzie to robicie. Chcąc uniknąć zatrucia koniecznie wybierajcie sprawdzone lokale. Warto podpytać sprzedawcę, czy masę przygotowuje się z gotowego miksu, czy też wyrabia się ją od podstaw na miejscu.
Długa kolejka, to zawsze dobry znak, a nos i oczy z pewnością dadzą ci najlepszą rekomendację. Jeśli wyczujecie wokół budki nieprzyjemny aromat spalonego oleju lub zobaczycie, że masa na gofry i dodatki do nich nie są przechowywane w chłodziarkach, omijajcie taki lokal szerokim łukiem. Zdecydowanie lepiej będzie przejść kilkaset dodatkowych metrów w poszukiwaniu innego stoiska, niż borykać się z zatruciem pokarmowym, które zniszczy ci urlop.
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